We’re Immature. Deal With it.

I always find it amusing when girls say that guys are immature. Or that when a girl specifically tells me that I’m immature.


I’m 23 years old and am less than two years out of college. I’m not Clark Gable. I still laugh at fart jokes, I like getting drunk and eating Taco Bell at 3 a.m., and my ideal day involves lying on my bed for 12 hours watching sports.

What do girls expect? Do they expect us to have ambition? Do they expect us to have an appreciation for art, and to drink wine while sticking our pinky out in the air?

Maybe it’s not us. Maybe… it’s you.

Girls are the ones who should accommodate to us. Plus it should not come as a shock to girls that we are immature. It’s in our nature. And guess what? We never fully do mature. Sure, we (slowly) adapt to the real world, but at the same time, we never lose our sense of debauchery and plain old goofiness.

I bring this up because I was reading an article in the Wall Street Journal (that’s right — I read that… sometimes) that discussed this very topic. It is titled “Where Have the Good Men Gone?”

Here are a few excerpts:

Not so long ago, the average American man in his 20s had achieved most of the milestones of adulthood: a high-school diploma, financial independence, marriage and children. Today, most men in their 20s hang out in a novel sort of limbo, a hybrid state of semi-hormonal adolescence and responsible self-reliance. This “pre-adulthood” has much to recommend it, especially for the college-educated. But it’s time to state what has become obvious to legions of frustrated young women: It doesn’t bring out the best in men.


Facebook. Twitter. Video games. Sports. Food. Porn. That is what we are all about.

Accept it.

Still, for these women, one key question won’t go away: Where have the good men gone? Their male peers often come across as aging frat boys, maladroit geeks or grubby slacker.

It’s cool to be a nerd now. Take a look at these famous nerds. They will agree.

Jesse Eisenberg

Rivers Cuomo

Andy Samberg

Mark Zuckerberg

These men — these four brave men — have officially made it cool to be geeky.

One more bit from the article:

So where did these pre-adults come from? You might assume that their appearance is a result of spoiled 24-year-olds trying to prolong the campus drinking and hook-up scene while exploiting the largesse of mom and dad.

Again, that sounds perfectly accurate. I see nothing wrong with that statement. Nor do I see anything wrong with it. We’re in our early 20s! if it’s still going on when we’re in our 30’s — okay, something is wrong. But until then… BACK OFF.

Maybe instead of complaining about it, and getting together with other girls and wondering when you will meet your “Prince Charming,” maybe you should realize that you guys are the ones with the problems.

And stop acting like you’re above everything. You knew you found my funny — albeit a little bit racist (and VERY sexist) — joke humorous. You just don’t want to admit it!

One thought on “We’re Immature. Deal With it.

  1. I think it’s funny our generation invented a whole new adulthood. We’re taking our time with our lives because most of us will have a longer life span.

    I actually find the bits of the article here mildly offensive. It makes girls sound like a bunch of crazy bitches who want to marry a rich guy and never leave the castle; except maybe to get her hair and nails done. It embarrasses me to be apart of the gender that thinks like that, you know? I feel like it’s showing men in a poorish light too. As if all of you are drunken, lazy, entitled frat boys who don’t want to work.
    How unfair is that? Meanwhile, if all men are immature, isn’t that the “real world“? If all men are immature, does that make all woman irrational, thoughtless, psycho bitches?….Don’t answer that. :p

    Both my siblings and I moved back home after college for about a year or more before we moved out (My sister moved out, I moved into the apartment over the garage a la Mike Seaver ( I defend that by paying rent), and my older brother still lives at home), and that’s gone from weird and creepy to the norm.

    I quit my job at the end of last year (without another job lined up), which wasn’t done 30 years ago. By 1980’s standards, by my age of 25, I’m supposed to be married with two kids with possibly a secretary job who looks the other way when her wall-street husband does coke and his own mistress.

    What I wonder is, what is the next generation going to be like? If we are taking this much time to allow our lives to come together better, what about the generation of over coddled, technology infused, Non-Music MTV generation going to be like?

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