I always found it interesting how people respond to Facebook event invites.
Obviously, inviting people to events on Facebook is the easiest way to go about it. Within minutes, you can invite anywhere from 20 to 200 people to an event. If you need to change the location or the time, you can modify it and everybody knows about it instantly. It’s extremely convenient.
There’s a lot of thoughts that surface when you are invited to an event. Firstly, you are happy that somebody decided to include you in their celebration — like a birthday, for instance. It’s always nice to be acknowledged and to be included, whether you can attend the event or not. It’s a good feeling.
But then a few more questions come to mind: Can you attend this event? And then after that… do you even want to attend? And if you decide you do want to attend, when do you click ‘yes?’ Right away? After a few days? Maybe I should wait until some other people say ‘yes,’ it’d be too awkward if I’m the first…
It’s only natural. The latter question comes to mind when the person inviting you isn’t a close friend. Thus, you usually wait it out and see who else is going, or wait and see if something better pops up on that day. It’s pretty shitty, but it’s what we do.
Facebook gives you four options as far as responding. It sounds simple, but we manage to find ways to make it complicated. Anyway, the options are: Yes, No, Maybe, or not responding at all.
We all know what it’s like to react to receive a Facebook event. But what about when you are the one sending out the invitations. That’s a whole different ballgame.
It’s a little nerve-racking to send out an event. Your thoughts race to both ends of the spectrum…
“What if only like five people respond?” That’d be embarrassing…”
“I’m sure a lot of people will come. Everybody likes me! Right? …Right?”
Anyway, so you finally send it, and then, naturally, you check it every five minutes to see who responded.
Of course, there will be the people who do say ‘yes’ right away. There are typically your closest friends. It was inevitable that they were going to come, so why waste any time? Maybe they’ll even write something witty on the event wall to break the ice.
Then there’s always going to be the ones that hit ‘no’ right away and give some type of excuse. Normally it’s legitimate. Something like they’ll be “out of town for the weekend.” Nothing you can do about that.
Conversely, sometimes they’ll be lame excuses like “I have a big test that Monday!” or “Another friend is having a birthday party that night!” or “I have a busy week leading up to it so I’ll see how I feel.” You might as well just write “I don’t like you.” That way, at least I know.
Sometimes those excuses I just listed will lead to somebody hitting ‘maybe.’ Or sometimes, people will hit ‘maybe’ and not give an excuse. That basically just translates to “Eh, I do kind of like you, but not enough to commit right away so I’ll just wait it out.” The only good thing I can say about this is that at least its honest. And at least they gave you enough courtesy to give you some semblance of a response. Usually it means that there’s a 50% chance that person will show up.
And then, of course, there are the people who don’t reply at all. You might as well just walk up to me and slap me in the face and tell me to go fuck myself. That’s basically implying that you don’t give enough of a shit about me to even warrant a response. When people choose not to respond, I just assume they are not coming.
As time elapses, more people will tend to respond. Normally within a week of the event people will have a clearer idea of their schedule. They’ll know for certain that they are free that weekend, and that there won’t be anything better to do. So they’ll be a late straggler and say that they are attending. I am content with those people.
But then the awaiting replies will keep it like that, and not end up going. In all seriousness, it doesn’t actually make me hate them or anything, but it does say a lot.
In the end, you just have fun with the people who do go. And that’s all that matters.
And you drink beer. Repeatedly.
I’m still waiting for the day when it becomes socially acceptable to ask out a girl on a Facebook event. I’m very tempted to do it now, actually. In that case, I’d welcome an “awaiting reply.” That’s a hell of a lot better than a ‘no,’ which is what I am accustomed to.