Now that I know so many people who have recently become engaged and/or married, I’m beginning to notice a new trend.
Obviously, when you get engaged, it makes complete sense to update your relationship status on Facebook as soon as possible. Your close friends will want to know the good news. So it’s only appropriate to get the word out quickly.
But, you know, changing your relationship status, and maybe posting a quick little tidbit, as well as a photo or two of where the engagement occurred… that’s… that’s enough. You don’t need to do more than that. You’re good there.
So when girls take it a step further and post a closeup picture of themselves with their hand extended, clearly attempting to show off their wedding ring, well that just bothers me.
I know that all girls care very deeply about what their wedding ring looks like. They’ve dreamed about it their entire life. And the first time a girl sees another girl after she gets engaged, they want to see the ring. It’s the first thing they ask.
But you’re supposed to be humble about it. It’s a very personal thing. You’re not supposed to go gallivanting about it on the Internet for everybody to see. That’s just a huge “Hey everybody! Look at me!” maneuver. I bet you’re also one of those people who post pictures of themselves doing cartwheels at the beach.
First of all, a wedding ring is a sensitive situation for the guy as much as it is the girl. Maybe even more so. I know a girl wants her wedding ring to be beautiful and perfect, but they have to understand that times are tough. Us men just plainly and simply don’t have a lot of money. In fact, we’re lucky to even have any money. And you should just be grateful that your ring was purchased at a jewelry store and not taken directly out of a Cracker Jack box.
The total amount of money spent on a wedding ring is not reflective of how much love exists between two people. In fact, I think it may even be the opposite. If a rich dude wants to propose, he’s just going to walk into Tiffany’s and buy the first expensive ring he sees. He won’t put any thought into it and he won’t care.
However, an everyday man working on a tight budget will use as much money as he possibly can muster towards buying his ring, and he will go to jewelry store after jewelry store looking for the best deal on a beautiful ring that best represents his love.
So, bearing that in mind, since I already know that I will probably not be rich at any point in my life, I don’t think I’d be too thrilled if my fiancé immediately runs to Facebook and poses a picture of her posing with her wedding ring. I don’t need people to make judgments on me based on the monetary value of a ring when they don’t even know what my financial situation is.
Another horrible factor I haven’t mentioned is that it takes the primary focus away from the most important thing: the love that exists between a man and a women. Of my close friends who have gotten engaged recently, I don’t know anyone who has done this, which is a relieving thought. But I have seen other people on Facebook who I’m not close with anymore that have done it, and it sickens me.
What the ring looks like is not the most important thing and shouldn’t be the most important thing on your mind. If my fiancé did that, it tells me that she’s more excited to finally be engaged as opposed to being more excited that she is marrying me. It’s a huge red flag.
Again, I understand that girls want to show off their ring. And they should. They’ll only get one (at least you hope) opportunity to do so. But there is a time and a place for it.
And it is not on Facebook.