You know how you have those days where you feel defeated, lethargic, unmotivated and just plain depressed? Where it feels like nothing is going your way, that life sucks and that the universe is sending you a message to just give up? And then it gets to the point where you are so expectant for things to fail that you give a half-assed effort from the beginning, and in result… it does fail?
Well… how about the opposite?
What about having a day where you just feel like you are the shit. A day where you feel like nothing can ever stop you. That everything you try to do is going to succeed. A day where you just tell the world, “Fuck you world. Today, I am going to make you my bitch.” A day where you feel… invincible.
Why can’t we have days like that?
It’s so easy to have the first type of day that I described. It’s really easy to mope, to feel sorry for yourself, and to treat every one else like shit. That’s a cinch. But to come out and say, “You know what? Everything I do to today, every task that I undertake, every idea that comes into my head… is fucking awesome. There is nothing today that I can not accomplish.” Now that takes strength. That takes real courage. And everyone out there is very capable of it.
I know what you’re thinking, when the hell did I become a motivational speaker? Well I’m not. And this certainly doesn’t apply to everyone. I know there are plenty of people out there that no matter what type of sense you try to talk into them, they will never have the ability to look on the bright side. Well, screw ’em. That’s their own choice and their own problem.
But sometimes you need to stop expecting that things will always fail, that nothing will work out, and that it’s just not your day. Maybe you’re just not trying hard enough.
How does one gain this attitude, you ask? Well, it’s all about mindset. On a day where your girlfriend dumps you, you get fired from your job, and your goldfish dies, then yeah, maybe you are truly having a bad day.
But, you know, if you just step in a puddle on the way to work, or you get a stain on your favorite jeans, then well… that’s not really a big deal at all. That’s not what problems are.
That being said, it’s all about perspective. Try to see things on the bright side. If you’re like me, you’ve already been blessed with so much. So just keep that in the back of your head. Then, upon arriving at work, perhaps try to actually do a good job for once. After doing that and actually being productive, you’ll find yourself in a good mood. And that’s when you can start gaining confidence. It really all starts with the little things.
Most of the time, people are too scared to try things because the prospect of failing terrifies them. Is it a bad feeling when you fail? Of course. But you know what is even worse than failing? Never knowing. Never taking a chance. I think it was Wayne Gretzky that said, “You miss 100% of the shots you never take.” Simple, but profound.
Listen to Wayne. He wasn’t the greatest hockey player of all time for nothing, was he?
By the way, I wonder who the greatest person of all time at doing nothing is? That would be the ONE skill where that cliché adage wouldn’t work. “He wasn’t the best person at doing nothing for nothing, was he?” Umm, actually… yes he was.
Anyway, I’m just saying that it’s not too absurd to go into a day assuming that everything is going to go right, instead of the opposite. Sometimes people get so down and pessimistic that they’re the ones who bring all the misfortune onto themselves with their piss poor attitude. And then, when the shit inevitably hits the fan, they have the nerve to blame it all on bad luck. Well what ever happened to making your own luck? All it takes is an attitude change.
Go ahead, try it. I dare you.