Have you ever looked in a mirror and thought, “Wow, is this how the world views me?”
You always have one set image of yourself in your head, and you always pick the best possible looking photo as your default pictures for Facebook, Photo IDs, Twitter, the picture you preemptively select for milk cartons in case you ever go missing, etc. This is because you always want to present the best possible looking version of you.
So when you randomly look in the mirror, and see what you actually look like and what other people see whenever they look at you, it could be surprising.
I’m not necessarily saying that you look a lot worse than what you think, but it’s always different than what we envision in our head. It’s only natural to have an inflated view of yourself, and to expect that you’ll look good in any situation and from any angle. It’s like when you hear your voice on a recorder and you think, “This is what I sound like?!” Same deal.
People that obsess over what they look like are truly wasting their time. What we look like is what we look like. It’s not like teen movies where you take off your glasses and undo your ponytail and suddenly you’re hot.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t try to make yourself as good-looking as you possibly can, but my point is that stressing out over your appearance to the point where it’s actually consuming you is completely nonsensical. There’s a thing called genetics. You inherit certain physical traits from your line of ancestry, and those traits make up our appearance. End of story. The sooner that we acknowledge that, the sooner we could cross that off of the list as one less thing to worry about.
It’s easier said than done. Even I find myself looking into a mirror whenever I am in the same room as one. I’m not exactly sure why. It’s not that I am insecure with my appearance (I already know that I am gorgeous), or that I am always looking to make slight improvements throughout the day (anyone that carries a comb with them is gay); I just am always curious to see what other people see. Don’t ask me why. It’s almost like I’m a goldfish, and every six seconds I forget what’s going on and what I look like.
Also, changing your physical appearance through plastic surgery is sacrilegious, in my mind. I’m not even religious and I still think that. We were born the way we are. Just accept it. That’s how nature works. And that’s not even considering the dangerous health risks and side effects of surgical alteration.
Additionally, it’s always extremely noticeable when somebody has had work done. It’s not attractive. It’s freaky.
Physical appearance is important, I’m not denying that. When we first lay eyes on somebody, we subconsciously begin to make hundreds of generalizations about this person based solely on what they look like. We label them before they’ve even uttered a word. So whenever you hear somebody say, “Woah, he/she is totally different from what you’d expect,” it just means that they don’t fit the stereotypes based on what they look like. It’s not wrong. We all do it.
And that’s why we all want to look good on Facebook. If we meet someone of the opposite gender that we fancy, we all know that they will seek us out on Facebook. Thus, we want to do our part and make sure that we alleviate any ounce of uncertainty they may have about our physical appearance.
Speaking of which, have you ever met people who say, “Ugh, I don’t look good in photos?” Or “I’m not photogenic at all.” Well, that’s basically another way of saying that they are ugly. At least most of the time.
I say most of the time because there are some rare people out there — and I’ve witnessed this myself — that actually look much better in real life than they do in photos. Maybe it’s because they have an awkward smile, or because their beauty is no natural that it’s something you can only appreciate in person. Whenever this happens, it’s a pleasant surprise. People assume that Facebook pictures will always be the final factor of determining whether someone is good-looking or not, but, in these cases, it’s really the final factor in determining that you are an idiot for thinking that. It’s great because it’s as if you’re thwarting Facebook, and, at the same time, slapping Mark Zuckerberg in the face.
Again, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t be concerned with what we look like. It matters. But the sooner that you realize that it’s — for the most part — out of your control, you’ll be much better off.