It is the time in your life when you are at your most vulnerable point, and therefore depend the most on others, when you discover the true nature of people.
People are who they are. They’ve been one way since they were born and there’s really no changing it. However, it is during times of need when you really learn of it.
It’s both a good thing a bad thing.
I say this for a few reasons. For one, it’s a bad thing because it totally changes how you have always viewed that person. While they may have always been that way, the truth is that they may not have always been that way in your eyes.
I always preach that you need to look for the good in people. It’s not healthy to go around disliking people, and you’ll be much better off if you focus on the good qualities and appreciate them for it. I will always stand by that philosophy.
However, it’s also dangerous, because it can give you a misleading perception of somebody. If you try to focus on the good, then sometimes you ignore or disregard the bad. You almost block in out in your mind, and you continue to give that person the benefit of the doubt even though they may not deserve it.
Now I say it could also be a good thing when you witness somebody’s true colors, because finally, once and for all, you know. No matter how many chances and how many opportunities you give somebody, there are some things that there are absolutely just no coming back from. And unfortunately, it almost takes these extremes to come to that realization. It hurts, no question about it, but at least you know.
When you care about somebody, you want so badly to believe that they are good. You see them not as they are, but how you want them to be. Also, when you care about somebody, you want to be there for them, and conversely, you assume that they will always be there for you. It happens to all of us. We believe what we want to believe, and no matter how old you are, when this occurs, we become as naive as a small child.
And when the shit finally hits the fan, then the blinders, which have been there from day one, are finally lifted, and for the first time, you can see clearly. It’s like a cathartic experience, and you wonder why it took you so long to finally get it. But you get it now.
And that’s why it’s a good thing. Because you can finally move on in your life and realize who the people are who will really be there for you if you need them. And when it happens, you can’t really be bitter about it, because you are just as much to blame. You formed this false perception, and you kept on believing it. That’s your fault and no one else’s.
Again, it all just really makes you take a step back and appreciate your real friends. Although we never wish to experience heartbreak, or tragedy, or any type of sadness, it’s good to know that when it does happen, you will have people who will be there for you. That is what really matters.
Life can be bittersweet sometimes, can’t it? I hope I feel better tomorrow, and can blog about something more happy.