How can people talk so loudly in public and be completely oblivious to those around them?

Of course I must begin today’s rendition of the Weinblog by justifying why I did not blog yesterday. Need not worry, it wasn’t because I didn’t feel like doing it — it’s simply because I didn’t have enough time (there’s not enough hours in the day!!)

Basically as soon as I left work yesterday I hopped on a train to the city to attend a Goldfinger/Reel Big Fish concert (which was awesome), and didn’t get home until about 12:30 a.m. So that sums that up.

And I am here now with a topic in hand.

So today I was at my favorite local deli picking up some dinner. It’s a really popular place and every time I go I usually end up standing line for about 10-20 minutes. But it’s so good that it’s more than worth it.

As I’m there, standing in line minding my own business, a girl who is sitting at a table behind me suddenly strikes up a conversation with one of the deli employees behind the register, who she was obviously friends with.

It wasn’t just one of those things where they had a quick exchange of one or two sentences and then stopped, they legitimately held a ten-minute conversation. Meanwhile, me and about five other customers are standing on line directly between them trying to act like we’re oblivious to the conversation. But that’s freaking impossible because you can easily hear every word. I couldn’t drown it out if I tried.

Words can’t express how irate I was becoming. When I go to pick up food, I want to stand in line quietly, not talk to anybody, not hear anybody, get my food, come home and eat. Anything that disrupts this formula is a huge nuisance.

I just can’t comprehend how people can talk so loudly and not expect that other people won’t only hear them, but that they will also judge them based on this behavior. And it’s not just this specific scenario, I’m out in public all the time when I hear either two people converse very loudly, or I hear somebody talking on their cell phone and not bothering to keep their voice down.

Whenever this happens, I can only come to a few basic conclusions.

1) They genuinely think that people won’t listen. But if that’s the case, then they are obviously unaware of human nature and people’s innate tendencies to be as intrusive in other people’s lives as possible. That makes them dumb.

2) They genuinely don’t care if other people hear them or not. If this is the case, then this tells me that they exhibit this behavior all of the time. And, in my opinion, it’s not necessarily because they are that indifferent towards other people’s opinions, but because they are too dumb to know any better. They are oblivious to the fact that what they are saying aloud might sound stupid, and that other people might judge them for it.

Call me shy or reserved, but I do not like to be overheard in public by strangers. I don’t need other people to know what I am saying. I’m very conscious of all of the actions that I take, and I don’t need to barge in other people’s lives by exposing them to things I have to say when they don’t ask for it.

Whenever somebody does this, I have no problem labeling them as an annoying person in general. If they are okay with this behavior, then who knows what other annoying behaviors they perform?

The worst part about all this was that I, stuck in the middle of this whole ordeal, had to actually pretend like this conversation wasn’t actually bothering me. I had to do things like pretend I’m reading text messages or checking scores on my phone just to make it seem like this audible, obnoxious conversation had no affect on me. Essentially, I had to alter my behavior just to accommodate to these jackasses that wouldn’t shut the hell up.

Seriously, do you not have any respect for other people’s desires to mind their own business? Think about that. I actually had to go out of my way to mind my own business and not eavesdrop. That’s not cool.

And, I mean, you’re the biggest scumbag in the world if you turn around and tell them to be quiet. Because in their eyes, they are doing absolutely nothing wrong because they don’t know any better. Again — they’re dumb.

If I want to hear a live discussion that doesn’t involve me, I’ll turn on CSPAN. But if I’m going to get my food, and I’m hungry, tired and cranky, the last thing I want to hear is a public conversation that has absolutely nothing to do with me in any shape, way or form.

Just don’t do it.


2 thoughts on “How can people talk so loudly in public and be completely oblivious to those around them?

  1. I really like the way you write. Just had a quick question. Are you caucasian? And are the people you were talking about black?

    • Thanks for the compliment.

      I am indeed Caucasian, but the people I am referencing were Caucasian as well. Had they been black, I’d have said so. Not because I’m racist, not in the slightest, but because I hate annoying people of all races and colors. But the problem I detailed here transcends that.

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