Each and every day we go through the motions. We do the same things so repetitively that we’ve almost become robotic in our daily rituals.
We know exactly what time — to the minute — we need to wake up depending on what time we need to be at work. We know exactly how long it will take to get up from bed, shower, get dressed, eat breakfast and travel.
Then we go to work and do our thing. Maybe we go to the gym after, or go to happy hour, or go to a movie with a friend, or grab dinner with a special somebody. Regardless, at the end of our day, we return back to our homes, our apartment, our sanctuary.
And that is the status quo. That is our lives. When everything’s said and done, we return home.
We may spend a lot of time at work, or doing fun things after, but what we return home to is where our lives really lie. I call this the status quo — it means it is how things are, whether you like it or not.
It was Lebron James, after the Miami Heat lost the NBA championship to the Dallas Mavericks in 2011, who said:
“All the people that were rooting on me to fail, at the end of the day they have to wake up tomorrow and have the same life that they had before they woke up today. They have the same personal problems they had today.”
Yes, he is a gigantic douchenozzle for saying this. He’s basically saying that he’s rich and famous, and you guys aren’t, so he’s better.
But he’s right. He’s 100% right.
The most important thing we strive for is enjoying the life that we’ve laid out for ourselves, whether it is by choice or circumstance. Even if you dislike your job, you can still find plenty of solace in coming home every day to people you want to see and a situation that you enjoy being in. That obviously differs for a lot of people. But the point is that you need to like it. If you’re unhappy with the status quo, then you’re unhappy, period.
When you wake up each and every morning, from your dreams of radical situations in faraway lands, do you smile? Because the first thought that pops into everybody’s head when they return to consciousness is — what is my life right now? If you’re waking up happy, then you’re golden. Congratulations. But if you’re waking up and feeling defeated, and thinking that you’d rather be back in your dreams — then that is a problem.
But how do you fix the status quo? It’s not something one can simply do overnight. I think the main thing is to try to decipher exactly what it is that is missing in your life. Once you can pinpoint that, then you can begin to come up with a plan on how to achieve it.
There are many ways to temporarily escape. You can go on a vacation, go on a drinking binge, or even do something simple like read a book or watch a movie. But when it’s over, or when you sober up or return home, you’re right back where you started.
Plenty of things in life can be altered, modified and tinkered to achieve happiness. But the only way to sustain that happiness is to make sure that you are comfortable and content with the things that you have and the people are closest with (or lack thereof.)
Because regardless of where you live, or what you own; if you’re not enjoying the status quo, then you can have everything and at the same time have nothing. And vise versa.
How’s your status quo?