“That’s a cute dress!”
“I LOVE those boots.”
“You must tell me where you got your hair done.”
No, these are not compliments that I received today. But in one form or another, if you listen hard enough, you will hear a girl compliment another girl on her outfit at least one time throughout the course of a day.
Girls obviously care a lot about what they wear. They put a lot of thought into their outfits at the start of each day. Guys do not. In fact, it is a little past 8 p.m. right now as I write this. I got home from work three hours ago, and I could not even tell you what I wore today. I already forgot.
So whereas guys just wear clothes because society tells us that we are supposed to, girls very strategically plan their outfits to appeal to other people. They want guys to notice them, and they want girls to notice them — for different reasons obviously. That I understand. I have no problem with that.
But what I don’t understand, is why girls feel compelled to compliment each other all of the time. I can’t even tell you how many times I witness a girl just approach another girl, and without even saying hello, they compliment them on their outfit.
You would never — never — in a million years, hear a guy compliment another guy on something that he is wearing. Can you even imagine it?
“Dude, nice polo shirt! Where’d you get it?”
“Oh. My. God. Those new Nike shoes are superb.”
“Bro. Bro. That hat. Awesome.”
It just doesn’t happen. Ever. Mainly because male clothing does not register within other males. Female clothing certainly does, but, it goes without saying that we are not observing for the sake of style.
So why do girls feel compelled to compliment? Most of the time, the person who gives the compliment isn’t even really friends with the person who they are complimenting. A lot of the time, the compliment will be the only exchange those two girls have all day. So why? Why?
Well I think I know. About 99% of guys will agree with me, and perhaps 14% of girls will agree with me. But either way, I think I am right. So here we go.
Let me start by saying that when two guys meet each other, they have absolutely no reason to dislike each other. Guys are simple. We like to eat, watch sports and talk about girls. We’re all the same. So for a guy to actually hate another guy, a lot of crazy shit has to happen. But until that happens, guys usually have no problems getting along with each other.
Girls, on the other hand, are completely different. They have to earn each other’s approval. I’m certainly not saying that all girls automatically hate each other (at least not always), but there certainly is a little bit more of a screening process for girls. They have to gauge what kind of girl this is — is she a bitch, a slut, a flirt, etc.
So when girls compliment one another, it’s almost a way of sending an olive branch over to her in order to gain approval. Yeah sure, they usually are at least a little bit sincere with the compliment, but the main intention of offering said compliment in the first place is to try to get in the other girl’s good graces.
Haven’t you all seen Mean Girls? remember when Rachel McAdams compliments girls on their clothing or accessories, only to mock them as soon as they walk away? That, my friends, is the female gender.
The reason guys don’t compliment each other is because we have no need to gain one another’s approval. Guys start with each other’s approval — and thus we can only lose it. And complimenting another guy on his LaCoste button-down will only cause you to lose it.
I’m not gonna lie though, it’s a really effective strategy. I don’t think there is any girl in the world who doesn’t like to be told that she looks nice. So complimenting her on her physical appearance will give you a big +1 in her book. If I was a girl, and I wanted to prove to another girl that I’m not a bitch, I’d make sure to compliment her also.
And it’s always done in public. Because that only makes you look better. You are bringing her outfit to other people’s attention in a positive light, and by offering the compliment in front of others, it gives you the appearance that you are a nice person. It’s a win-win situation, and it’s brilliant. Trust me, girls don’t compliment each other through gchat. That would be the equivalent of tipping your server when his back is turned. You need your contrived decency to be seen and noticed, or else, what good is it?
Ah, I just remembered what I wore to work today.
A button down shirt and jeans. I knew it would come to me.