Their tends to be certain personal information that people prefer to keep confidential. For example, many people choose not to disclose their weight in most situations. At least I know that is the case with most females.
Age is another thing that people like to keep under wraps, particularly as they become older. I figure it’s mainly because those figures can lead people to forming an instant generalization about you. By simply hearing a number, they create an opinion. And obviously, that’s not right. So it’s slightly understandable why people might want to withhold those personal details.
Another one of those personal details? Salary.
By stating how much money that you earn yearly, you are opening Pandora’s box. Not just one judgment, but several judgments will be made about you upon divulging your income. For one, people will make the distinction as to whether you are “rich,” “well off,” “average” or “poor.”
Next, they will question your line of work. If you’re underpaid, they’ll wonder why you haven’t sought another job and/or field.
Last, others will compare their own situation to yours. If they make more money, it’ll confirm in their mind that they are doing better than you are in life.
So that’s why people like to keep their salaries a secret. And I get that. It’s universally known that you don’t ask somebody what they make. When it comes to money, it’s a touchy issue.
But the thing that I find most interesting is how we don’t even tell our own friends how much money we make. Especially because most conversations we have with friends revolve around money. Typically when you are with your buddies, you are doing activities that involve spending money. Also, people will update their friends about their living situations, and if they plan to move into their own apartment or whatnot. Generally, those conversations all circle around individual salaries, and yet, they are rarely mentioned.
Again, I understand why, but I still think it’s very interesting.
I don’t blame people for this, but I blame the social stigmas that have been created. We should not be judging people for how much money they make. For one thing, there are many fields in which people don’t start getting compensated until much later in life. Take doctors, for instance. While in med school, they’re not making shit. It’s not until they are in their 30s when the dough starts rolling in.
And that’s the case for many professions. Obviously, that doesn’t mean that everyone is set to earn a big payday, but my point is that there are a lot of factors that go into what somebody is earning at any given time, and that’s why it is unfair to form judgments.
There are some careers where salaries are common knowledge. Professional sports in one of them. The minute an athlete signs a contract, it is on Twitter before the ink even dries. Granted they make millions of dollars, but, if they can be so open about it, why can’t everyone be as forthright?
First of all, if you are earning a salary to begin with, it means you have a stable job, and that alone is something to be proud of. So there’s no reason to be ashamed about your salary, considering that you are lucky enough to have one.
Money makes the world go round. I know that. But when you’re summing up a person’s entire existence, salary is just one of many factors. Heck, whenever somebody asks another person about their rent, they always have to preface the question with, “If you don’t mind me asking…”
And in the same vein, we always rip the price tags off of gifts before we deliver them. It’s common practice, but in the grand scheme of things, it shouldn’t be important.
I often say that Facebook has created a huge rift in our society.
Money did that long before Facebook ever did.