It’s time to put an end to the humble brag

Let me begin by saying there’s few greater feelings in life than gaining a sense of accomplishment.

Big or small, it’s always rewarding when you receive confirmation that you are doing a good job. However, while recognition is always a good thing, the people who are truly happy in life are the ones who never needed recognition to begin with.

Don’t get me wrong — even the happiest, most content person in the world will become even happier when rewarded. But the point 1st Placeis that they don’t need it to be happy.

Stay with me.

The creation of Facebook has given people a very public platform to humble brag, or in other words, to boast their own accomplishments. Too often, I witness people post their own work, their own news, their own achievement.

It doesn’t make you a bad person. In fact, humble bragging is now part of the accomplishment process, which goes, in order — Receive accolades, be happy, post on Facebook, receive likes.

I have been known to humble brag from time to time. I try not to do it too often, but I was even guilty of it a few weeks ago, when I received my first ever award for an article I wrote at work. It made me extremely happy, and I thought, “You know what, I’ve earned a shitload Facebook likes. Let’s do this.”

I will never fault somebody for humble bragging when it’s warranted, but I can’t guarantee I won’t roll my eyes, either.

But here’s the crux of what I am trying to get to: the people who spend their lives doing what makes them the most happy, are the ones who are truly succeeding. I’ll take it one step further and say that the people who keep their accomplishments to themselves, and never post it on Facebook, are the ones who are happiest.

If you love what you’re doing, whether it’s writing, performing, accounting, teaching, coding, politicking, painting, or whatever, then doing it every day should be enough.

What’s the true mark of ultimate happiness? To do what you love, and then go home and act like it never happened. Why? Because doing it is the true source of joy. Not talking about it after. Not expecting accolades. And certainly not posting about it on Facebook.

Humble bragging is annoying in itself, but even worse, I think Facebook has distorted people’s goals. Instead of striving for peak inner happiness, we’re instead striving for tangible rewards so that we can show them to others and receive positive reinforcement. And that’s not what life is supposed to be about.

So if you want to humble brag, I’m not going to stop you.

But next time you do it, just ask yourself — what makes you happiest? The accolades, or the act itself?

Of course, none of this applies if you just slept with Kate Upton. Humble brag away, my friend. You’ve earned it.

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