An experience is something that is unique to everyone. Whatever it is you’re doing, individually or as a group, we all react and internalize in our own way. In the past, we really had no outlet so share thoughts about those experiences besides verbally.
You would tell your friends about it over the phone, or the next time you saw them at school. Or even keep it to yourself and cherish it independently.
Thanks to social media, those days are over.
No longer do we go out and try new things simply for the joy of it. Instead, we do it knowing that we can say that we did it on Facebook. Or Instagram. And that’s become our motivation. And I hate it.
If you love doing something — like exercising, or going to concerts, or traveling — then actually going out and doing it should give you all of the motivation you need.
If no one else in the world knew you did it, does it matter? If you love it, then theoretically, you should be able to do it, and never tell anyone about it and still be happy.
And I’m not saying that those who do share their experiences on social media are bad people. I do it too. But if it’s become your overarching incentive for doing it in the first place, then I think it’s an indication that you’ve lost track of what’s truly important to you.
It’s the age that we live in. It’s no one’s fault. Social media is easily accessible, and it’s difficult to resist tapping a few buttons on your phone and communicating with your social network. By doing it, though, you’re transforming your personal experience into a public one. And I think people forget that.
Since social media is so embedded and accepted in society, it’s almost impossible to make plans and execute them without incorporating social media in some way.
Nothing can really be done to change that. But my primary hope is that people realize that their primary motivation for doing things is for the love of it, and not because they are seeking public approval.
Remember, there was a time when we had no choice but to do things for no other reason than we wanted to.